Love Your Child: Palak Kundra
A recent
misfortune accident occurred nearby me where a kid who couldn't get more marks
than the expectations of the society and parents, committed suicide. And it was
more shocking when I got to know that he was actually a topper of his
respective school.
Alarming na!
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| love your Child |
I often see
kids, hanging a ton load on their back, sitting outside a coaching center, with
lifeless faces, discussing, without any smile but an unknown fear in their
eyes, fear of failure and pressure to attain highest, in their respective
fields. Yes, I agree that with new development, day by day, in technology and
easy availability of everything, it might be easier to gather information
regarding anything but it's a competitive cruel world for them, even in that
age of innocence when they must be balancing study and fun. But the race for
highest score to get seats and the pressure of parents, society and teachers,
kids find it difficult to share how they're getting along with the subject,
they've either chosen by their own will or by their parent's desires. Even if I
loved science till tenth class, doesn't mean that I will be loving it or
understanding it to next stage.
A kid of age
12, today, is far more fearful of exams and grades than ghosts.
The pressure
is unbearable for a kid who understands likes colors but is being forced to
like HCL or alpha/beta, or credit/debit. I know most parents don’t force their
own choices on their kids but they, along with society and teachers, do
pressurize them to get good marks.
I understand
that with more competitive world or I would rather say more practical and crueler world, sooner or later, a kid’s hard work pays off. But with his life….
that’s deniable!!!
Why still
it’s a taboo that your marks prove you worthy?????
Why one’s
capability is always being judged by his/her marks only??
There are
many successful personalities in this world we all follow who had been failures
in their academic lives.
Or it’s just
a big house a car a money making 9-5 job only which matters but nothing else.
The burden of
expectations is more dangerous than the burden of achieving good grades.
Money has
always been made by innovative ideas and it’s more creative and less
pressurizing too.
What if a kid
wants to be an actor like Shahrukh khan is being forced to be a doctor?
It’s just an
example to give but why not parents let their kids do or rather support their
kid’s choice of future. You can’t have control on anyone’s life if he’s willing
to go by the road you’ve chosen for him.
There are
many cases students committing suicide, arising day by day, with more struggle
for grades and to get admission in best schools/colleges/universities, all
around the world.
And that’s
only because they wished to prove themselves worthy but if they couldn’t, they
end up that life, a blessing asked from god by their parents.
A loss that
can’t be replenish. Ever!
A void that
can’t be filled. Ever!
A few things that parents, schools and
teachers and as well as society must remember and follow……
No kid is
being born without intelligence!
Sooner or
later, every kid gets to know what he’s just not good but great at!!!!!
No kid must
be forced to achieve things you wish him to!
Come on, stop
living in dreams. You are not your child. Let him do what he wishes to but not
what you’d wished for!
If your kid
pursues your choice/dream, don’t force him to become a topper!
Every parent
must regard, support and encourage their kid that their kid is at least trying
to fulfil their dream, taking it as a priority but not his own.
Don’t
discourage your kids ever…. ever…. ever!!!!!
Your kid,
irrespective of his/her age only trust you and relies on you, if he/she fails.
If parents,
teachers or even friends discourage them, that’s when the loss of self-esteem
and self-confidence start.
Be a support,
not a leg-puller!
Everyone else
is playing that part properly!
Most of the
time 100/100 don’t matter. It’s only the knowledge that matters. Sometimes the
one who doesn’t write well, turns out to be a good speaker.
Man is made
of mistakes!
No wonder,
human race will be destroyed by their own mistakes only!!
Why count
what your kid hasn’t done but you did at your same age. You might not have so
much comfort but you also didn’t face so much bitter competition.
Don’t
compare!!!
That’s my favorite part!!
I hate people
who compare. Like they themselves have owned Mars or Jupiter!!
When a parent
or a teacher or even a friend compares one’s failure to other’s achievement, it
develops a sense of hatred for the one who is comparing and for the one whom
he/she is being compared to. And even if that other achiever has nothing to do
with this comparison, becomes a part of someone’s negativity.
Hence,
spreading hatred!!!
Never
beat/threaten your child!
Don’t make
him afraid of the upcoming future even you’re unknown to or unaware of!!!
Because if
you can predict future, start telling the solution of “how to end terrorism,
poverty, gender inequality and other bigger issues” whole world feared since
eternity!!!!!!
All in all,
cherish your kids, be their friends, give them space (but not too much) …
Be humans who
had been gifted with over 20 senses to find a solution to every problem they
themselves arise!!!!
Love your
child!!!!
Article By Palak Kundra (Author Bleeding Queen)
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